Wednesday, August 15, 2012

You can't do that!

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”
- Mark Twain

How many times have you shared an idea or a dream with a friend or family member, only to hear them crush your goal by listing all of the reason(s) why you can't or shouldn't?  It doesn't feel very good to have those closest to you tear you down without even so much as a second thought. Well, let me share with you a little secret - they are actually telling you what THEY can't or won't do!

When you step up and out to make a forward movement in your life, you are mirroring to others what they are afraid to do themselves. So how do you handle those loved ones that want to rain on your parade?

1 - Use an umbrella:  Simply allow their thoughts and opinions to run right off of you.

2 - Question them further: You could ask them why they are against your idea then list all the reasons. This allows you to better understand their position and to better position yourself to respond in a postive manner.

3 - Help them see the sun:  You can help them change their perspective. Tell them to pretend that not doing this is not an option and then solicit their ideas and ways to make your dream work. This puts them in a frame of mind to search for solutions. They may even help you identify solutions that you haven't even thought of yet!

4 - Don't tell them:  Sometimes the best thing to say, is nothing.  Once they begin to see a dramatic change happening with you, then you can explain all the details of how you got there.  

Just remember, YOU are the creator and developer, so if YOU have the desire and determination YOU will always find a way!

Positive Change Hypnosis